The key word is ‘feeling’. How are you TRULY feeling? This is not what you are showing to the world, not the mask that you have up, but underneath all of that can you access what your real feelings are?
Being vulnerable with ourselves starts with being honest about what is really going on for us underneath the surface, and there is usually so much going on, but we don’t really give ourselves the time to investigate and listen to our feelings. Often people try to ignore difficult feelings that come up and then we find endless ways to avoid them. We shy away from introspection and we have become more comfortable with small-talk rather than having deep conversations. We devise countless ways to avoid ourselves and we all have different ways to do this, it could be the internet, social media, TV, projects that keep us too busy, music, or turning on the news.
It takes a lot of courage to be honest with ourselves about what is really going on. Rather than running from your feelings, try to allow yourself some time to sit down and identify them. Finding a quiet place to be alone, just observe and watch for the feelings that arise. Then take some time to label them. For example this could be feeling happy, sad, angry, frustrated, fearful, embarrassed, jealous, joyful, anxious, peaceful or all of them in one go!
During this time create the intention to allow yourself to feel the emotions and fully experience them. At first it might be overwhelming and resistance might show up. Eventually what you may find is that by allowing these feelings to finally express themselves they will begin to dissolve.
Recently I have taken on journaling and meditating every day. I use that time to be vulnerable with myself around what I am truly feeling. As I start to write I access deep parts to myself that help me to explore the range of feelings I have.
Once we give ourselves permission to be honst with them we can live more authentically.
How are you feeling? Will you give yourself the gift of time to explore them?