Unfortunately we live in a world where our value is constantly place on the outer. Growing up I remember being consistently pressured to do well at school, get better grades, work harder. Pressure was a big part of my childhood. At school I remember not understanding what the need for it was.
I was given a set of rules growing up of what success looks like and are not taught to value myself as a unique individual. We are taught to measure up against external standards through comparison and competition with others (very strong in the Indian community this one). The idea of tick boxes. Its been a tough conditioning to break free from.
A lot of my life I have consistently striving to not live according to the standards set on me. My roots has been in my longing for freedom. I just could not do the 9-5 in the city, my engagement ended, i’ve travelled like crazy, followed my heart and yet made an insane amounts of mistakes. I don’t like the idea of living in a Golden Cage. And although this has meant I have stayed in TeePees, and lived with high levels of uncertainty and a hell of a lot of unknown…. compromising my soul for comfort has not been an option for me.
I see a world where outer success is more important than inner growth. Better, stronger, faster, more intelligent, wealthier, prettier – value is being place on people that are ‘happy and successful’. It is all about having a banging social life, to be doing something important…. you don’t want to get left behind do you?
Instead of being loved and valued for the unique individuals that we are we are taught to conform to the ‘should’ and ‘shouldn’t of our upbringing and the social construct that we live in.
Let me remind you that you are valuable just because you exist. Just your presence alone can lift up the world. You don’t need a medal in swimming, or to be an investment banker, or hit first grade in mathematics, or get married. Forget the outer, focus on the inner.
I have to remind myself this every single day, because my inner critic can often be relentless.
I exist = I am valuable. Finding my authentic voice may take time, and it may be the harder route to take but hopefully our shining souls, and beating hearts will impact others on the journey.
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